I’ve got some thing preoccupying me right now so a new post is not on the front burner.  Hopefully, in a week or so things will be back up to speed.  In the meantime one of my favorite marriage quotes.  This one is often quoted, mostly likely because it rings so true.

“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”
Theodore Hesburgh

I just found out about this site. DivorceReform on first view has some good ideas, but I need to to dive into it for more detail.

I found this article on a Smart Marriages email.   It’s right in line with some of the things I suggest to many of my clients.  I’ll even go so far as to say that focusing on you marital health will ultimately benefit your parenting.

A Child’s Effect On Marriage
By KSFY Staff
Apr 8, 2008

It takes a lot of time and energy to care for a newborn. But that can lead
to trouble for many married couples.

The birth of a new baby is often the happiest day for new parents. But
experts say the joy can fade quickly if a couple puts their relationship on
hold as they care for the child.

Psychologist Mark Crawford says, “It is such a significant life change that
parents I think are unprepared for the effect it takes on their marriage.”

Crawford claims some mothers and fathers put so much energy into their
parenting roles that they neglect their relationship - which can lead to
trouble. “We know that 92% of all couples experience a lot more conflict
when they become parents, we know that approximately one fourth of all
divorces take place before a first child becomes 18 months of age.”

Crawford suggests couples talk about how their marriage will change before
the birth. “What will we have to do differently once we become parents that
we have taken for granted so that we stay close and intimate and connected
in that role?”

One way Crawford tells couples to spend more time together is to do what
they did before they had children and go on a date.